Bringing Up Your Ex
This one should be a no-brainer, but be mindful of not bringing up your ex. Whether it be in your bio, on a chat, or on a first date, there’s no need to bring up past negativity. You’ve embarked on this new journey of opportunity, so all you should be focused on is being yourself, learning about the guy in front of you and having a great time!
Don’t put down other women to build yourself up
Offering things like:
- “I’m not like other women”
- “I’m not a girls’ girl because I hate drama”
are red flags for dating. Putting down others is not a good way to start off. This may give men the idea that you were the one causing the drama. So leave behind the negativity and be positive and open!
Your bio is not the place for your romantic requirements
Obviously everyone has their checklist of the perfect man, but your bio or even first-chat conversation is not the place to drill a guy. Your bio is a place to showcase yourself–not to be demanding in your physical or personality requirements. Even on the first chat, let the conversation flow naturally. His personality traits will come through in an organic way, meaning you won’t have to sound demanding when learning more about them. Plus, Helen Meets Troy’s advanced algorithm will match you with men who have your desired personality and physical traits.
Don’t Diss the Game
Writing things like
- “My friends talked me into joining this site”
- “I’m not sure if these things even work,”
is throwing unnecessary shade and creating a very unappealing profile. No guy wants to pursue someone who doesn’t even believe in themselves or their success on the site. It’s all about positivity. Always be open to the possibilities and opportunities of online dating, and don’t let your fears or insecurities come through as negative or belittling to the site or those on it.
Don’t be Cocky, but don’t be too vague either
When it comes to online dating, modesty is as much as a turn off as bragging. Many profiles on dating websites start with statements like:
- “This is my first time doing this so I’m not very good at bios,”
- “I’m a great cook and have a high paying job–no one can understand why I’m single.”
Putting yourself down or bragging won’t sound attractive; you’ll either sound insecure or boastful.