Bringing Up Your Ex
This one should be a no-brainer, but be mindful of not bringing it up. Whether it be in your bio, on a chat, or on a first date, there’s no need to bring up the past negatively. You’re embarked on this new journey of opportunity, so all you should be focused on is being yourself, learning about the woman in front of you and having a great time!
Don’t put down other people to build yourself up
Offering things like
- “I’ve only dated crazy women, looking for one that’s not”
- “Looking for a drama-free woman who’s not high maintenance”
are red flags for dating. Blaming past relationships on the other person is never a good way to attract others. This may give women the idea that you were the one causing the drama, or that you weren’t enough of a gentleman and instead dub most women ‘high maintenance.’ So leave behind the negativity and be positive and open!
Your bio is not the place for your romantic requirements
Obviously everyone has their checklist of the perfect woman, but your bio or even first-chat conversation is not the place to drill her. Your bio is a place to showcase yourself–not to be demanding in your physical or personality requirements.
Even on the first chat, let the conversation flow naturally. Her personality traits will come through in an organic way, meaning you won’t have to sound demanding when learning more about her. Plus, HelenMeetsTroy’s advanced algorithm will match you with men who have your desired personality and physical traits.
Don’t Diss the Game
Writing things like
- “My friends talked me into joining this site”
- “I’m not sure if these things even work,”
is throwing unnecessary shade and creating a very unappealing profile. No one wants to pursue someone who doesn’t even believe in themselves or their success on the site. It’s all about positivity. Always be open to the possibilities and opportunities of online dating, and don’t let your fears or insecurities come through as negative or belittling to the site or those on it.
Don’t be Cocky, but don’t be too vague either
When it comes to online dating, modesty is as much as a turn off as bragging. Many profiles on dating websites start with statements like:
- “This is my first time doing this so I’m not very good at bios,”
- “I’m a great cook and have a high paying job–no one can understand why I’m single.”
Putting yourself down or bragging won’t sound attractive; you’ll either sound insecure or boastful.