Attention all class clown alumni, self-proclaimed comedians, or average funny guys, you have probably figured out by now that humor is a super power for you to use on the dating scene. Everyone wants to be with someone who can make everyone laugh, and you’re more than happy to take the credit for it. But what’s more important than making everyone in the room laugh? Making that special someone laugh.
That woman you find beautiful, that woman you’ve been crushing on, or the woman whose profile you just came across. Of course you want to make her laugh to impress her, but men also like to hear women laugh at their own jokes. It gives you that boost of confidence that you’re the guy they want to continue talking to,
you’re the guy responsible for her happiness at that moment, and you’re the guy with the power.
It may sound a bit outlandish—to derive power from making a woman laugh–but when you can control a conversation (even through jokes) you get a little power trip which boosts your self esteem and your attractiveness to the woman in front of you.
Psychologist Robert R. Provine analyzed over 3000 online dating profiles and discovered men were more likely to offer good humor production ability. Humor is one of the most important things for you to showcase in your profile–and continue to show through conversations–as it is one of the most important qualities a woman looks for.
So do women just want a partner who can tell them jokes all day? It goes deeper than that. Being funny means being smart, and being smart means being sexy. Let’s break that down.
Unless you’re making very low quality jokes or are constantly sarcastic, chances are your humor comes with some wit. Successful funny people are always one step ahead, their mind working a mile a minute. They are quick thinking and multi perspective because they found something funny to say before anyone else, at the right moment, that no one had thought of before. So, being funny is being smart.
As many people know, being smart translates to being sexy. A woman wants a smart man who will succeed professionally and make appropriate financial decisions. A man who can do that can provide a nice life for a woman, making you sexy. From way back in the caveman times, the woman found the men who didn’t stray into the lion’s den most attractive, because they were smart enough to stay alive. Times have changed quite a bit since then, but it’s comparable to a man who decides not to be smart and blow a bunch of money gambling.
So even if you’re not a self-proclaimed comedians, or the class clown alum, find your humor style.
Never force a joke or humor, but find your own and stick to it, as there is someone out there who’s humor is compatible to your own and will find you all the more attractive.